As we begin another year, most of us have already made our New Year resolutions. Some have set out detailed goals and planned the year ahead on how it will all happen. All of it has been based on how you think about success. Have you thought about how you think about success? I mean really, deeply, think about what success means to you?
Was 2016 a successful year for you? Do you feel you accomplished what you set out for? What went right? What went wrong? Where did you fall short? And most importantly, how can you make the next 12 months even more successful?
All of that depends on what success means to you.
Too many of us equate success with money and power, and for most of my life, that is how I framed my definition. But as I've got older, I realise that success is a very personal thing. What drives me, and what I consider to be successful is totally different for someone else. It may be similar but different at the same time.
Studying how others measure success has helped me set my own definition of success.
For me, there’s a distinction between “success” and “Being successful.”
There are many times when my goals and tasks don’t end in success, but I still feel that I am a “Being successful” because I am focused on the big picture goal and looking at the results as part of the journey.
My definition goes along the line “Success is being able to joyfully focus on my work and viewing the tasks that are part of it, as part of the journey in helping others in a meaningful way, and doing that in a way that gives me the freedom, lifestyle, and experiences that I aspire to"
I work with divorced men and help them better define and live their experience of being a single man again. My mission is to change the male culture of misguided stoicism in times of personal and emotional trauma. I see too many divorced men live unfulfilling social lives because they just don’t know how to go about it. This is what drives me and what gives me joy and to me that is “being successful.”
To help you better define your own personal definition of success perhaps a few definitions from "successful," people may get your thinking juices flowing. Most of them are CEOs who run organizations that they started. By most people's standards, they are successful.
“To find and fully live your purpose in life, and to leave an enduring legacy of having made a difference in the world." - Ron Cordes, founder of the Cordes Foundation
"Success is not having to describe what's been accomplished....others do it for you." - Deborah Hopkins, Chief Innovation Officer of Citibank.
"I define success as living my true purpose and having a positive impact on the lives of people by uplifting them and inspiring them to think and act in ways that they may not have considered before." - Raj Sisodia, co-founder of Conscious Capitalism
"The purpose of our lives is to contribute our unique, God-given gifts to have an extraordinary positive impact on the lives of others and the world." - David Kidder, CEO of Bionic
"Success, for me, has always been in providing a great quality of life for my family, for those who work for me, and to my community." - Jeremy Young CEO of Tanga
"My definition of success is knowing that what you are doing is helping you and others lead a better, happier, healthier life." - Kara Goldin, CEO of Hint Water
So, what does success mean to you?
John Cirak is the founder and the Lead Coach at The-EX-perienced Bachelor, which helps divorced men and women create a new lifestyle and relationships