Have you ever had a friend so close and dear to you, betray you, and in an instant, years of friendship shattered?
Have you ever been so in love with someone, you have felt the ecstasy of that connection when your eyes first met, to eventually feel the bitterness and pain in your heart when you had to depart?
Have you woken up one day, and realised someone that loved, nurtured and cared for you are now no more, taken from this world?
Have you ever just looked up, and asked, why is this happening to me?
Life is not simple. There is pain, there is cheating, there is death, there is unrepaid goodwill. Suffering is an essential component required in life. Most, if not all, of this suffering results from unconscious processing and operating from a plaguing paradigm of scarcity.
The idea that the world is against us, the contamination of suffering held in people’s mind and heart, is so detrimental to progress as we can take on the permanent role of victim. A mental jail is created where our innate potential is barricaded by barbs of permanent trauma.
But, suffering never has to be permanent.
In the book Cradles of Eminence, Mildred and Victor Goetzel detail the lives of some of the most influential people of history, the leaders who experienced challenges and pain, but now are seen as mentors to the inspired and achieving individuals.
Tony Robbins, Steve Jobs, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Ghandi, MLK, grew up and faced tremendous challenges to inspire and impact change in the hearts of average men. They transgressed their childhood and adult pain to become such game-changers, who have provided a blueprint on living a successful life.
Their life can provide hope, direction and an invincible mindset. In the midst of challenges, they took the responsibility to grow and learn from their falls to rise higher and higher.
Getting into their mind will reveal one crucial quality. They never stayed victims to their circumstances. They grew stronger from their challenges and became victorious in their zones of genius.
There are distinct traits between victims and victors. One will yield mediocrity, the other success.
The next time life seemingly deals you a cruel hand, remember the following:
Victims feelings of security lie in controlling the external world and having safe outcomes. Victors are already so secure within themselves they can embrace the chaos and risks of the external worlds
Victims drown in their sorrow, guilt and burden. Victors thrive and transform in challenges and blessings
Victims give up and take no action. Victors hold on to hope and continually move forward
Victims believe the world is against them. Victors KNOW the world is working for them
Victims see obstacles and dead ends. Victors see life correcting their course
Victims blame and damage other people. Victors take responsibility and empower people
Victims are full of contempt and negativity. Victors share compliments and gratitude
Victims succumb to their unconsciousness. Victors are the masters of their minds
Victims are apathetic towards life. Victors have continued excitement and movement
Victims are controlled by their fears. Victors are liberated by their faith
Victims operate from scarcity. Victors see abundance
Victims suffer. Victors become successful
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone may destroy overnight;
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is all between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
- Mother Theresa -
Will you leave this life as a victim, or victorious?
Anil Khanna is a Mentor at The Successful Male Global Pty. Ltd.